Welcome to the age of endless options and unlimited swipes.We are all well aware that our generation's way of dating is unique.Know that emoji that’s smiling and has hearts for eyes? If there’s one single characteristic that’s carried me through every terrible date, bitter break-up, sleeping with my ex and trying my damndest to not give up on this elusive thing called love, it’s my optimism. Because that’s just not in my vocabulary or my belief system.
More so, we have pre-configured mindsets on love and dating.You might expect optimism to fade when confronted with the reality of 21st century dating: guys who don’t call after a great first date, relationships that fall apart after three months, marriage proposals that never materialize.The study concludes that we can become pessimistic about the general state of things, but privately, optimism about our own futures remains intact.Interpreting a misfortune in this way allows us to conclude that our sunny expectations were correct after all — things did work out for the best.” According to social psychologist Leon Festinger, we reevaluate the options post-choice to reduce the tension that arises from making a difficult decision between equally desirable options. We would find ourselves stuck, overcome by indecision and unable to move forward. I am definitely still optimistic about finding love.Without this, our lives might well be completely filled with second-guessing. The article asks “How do we remain optimistic about dating while at the same time guarding against the pitfalls associated with being TOO optimistic? I’ve been working on my commitment issues and putting the negative experiences behind me.People with mild depression are relatively accurate when predicting future events. Says Sharot, “A canceled flight is hardly tragic, but even when the incidents that befall us are the type of horrific events we never expected to encounter, we automatically seek evidence confirming that our misfortune is a blessing in disguise.