“If she is fearful, insecure and doubting her merit, she will never be able to accept that her younger man loves her.” Winter adds that media reports about Demi Moore’s obsession with looking young are “the perfect example of how the ideal of youth and beauty can torture even the most lovely example of a modern-day woman.” The idea that one must maintain an illusion of youth to keep a younger partner is illogical. “It's an up-front buy that he's willing to accept, because he values the totality of who she is and what she brings to his life.” Talk about family planning.
Braving "robbing the cradle" jokes, almost one-third of women between ages 40 and 69 are dating younger men (defined as 10 or more years younger).
“Younger guys tend to be more active, have less baggage,” says Soletti, an event planner who regularly hosts dating mixers.
“You’re less likely to date a younger guy who’s been divorced, has children or has sexual performance issues.” In 2011, she met Juan Cabrera, now 34, at one of her mixers and soon fell in love. “Millennial men are career-focused and want to travel with successful women and conquer the world together,” says Soletti, who notes she’s seen an uptick in established women signing up specifically to meet younger bucks at her speed-dating events.
In the spirit of Sex and the City's Samantha Jones (pictured) a woman admitted she is drawn to younger men because they don't require as much commitment and she has 'complete control over the relationship''On his part, it's difficult falling for a woman who's past child-bearing age and then later on realising you do want children after all and it's not possible to have them with her,' Tracey points out.
his dry sense of humor kills you, and dang those eyes!
Mariah Carey, 42, has had twins with Nick Cannon–that’s a 10-year age gap. But top of the tree, as ever, is Madonna, 53, who is at least considering a marriage proposal from her 24-year-old boyfriend, Brahim Zaibat.
These two factors create a powerful chemistry between the two." Watch Your Insecurities.
It doesn’t help that women have been wired for centuries to equate their worth with youth and beauty. “It is often the limiting thoughts a woman has absorbed that can create problems for the couple,” says Winter.
Look at Halle Berry and Eva Longoria, who ended their relationships when their younger men allegedly strayed with younger women.
Then there was Ashton Kutcher who stepped out with a 23-year-old, leading Demi Moore into a whippet-induced 911 scandal. “In the hundreds of cases I've researched, the couples I know and with whom I've worked, there is love and fidelity,” she says.